Tell me, are you afraid? Is that why you choose the salad instead of the hamburger? I hope not.
Fear is a terrible place to make our decisions from. But I understand that it’s easy to do with everybody, our doctors and the media included, telling us that being fat is going to kill us. That that next bite of cake will be the death of us. But of course, none of that fear-mongering helps, does it? Making us scared doesn’t make us less fat.
It makes us hopeless.
Which makes us fatter.
So leave us alone already. Stop trying to scare us thin.
We do not need the fear. It doesn’t help.
When we make our health choices from a place of fear we are surely motivated, at least for a short time. But I believe that this only works if the consequences are imminent, say, after a type-2 diabetes diagnosis. Changes need to be made, ASAP, to keep things from getting worse (and possibly can help them reverse or get better, but I digress).
Yet, when we make our choices from a more positive place, they stay with us for the long haul. Food and movement choices become easier to make because it is a true desire, not a response to a negative, outside stimulus. We have chosen to love and nourish ourselves. We have become empowered. We become powerful. We have the power.
We want our health-based choices to be made this way: in our power. From a place of power, our choices go from being based in fear: “I won’t eat that because it will cause cancer/diabetes/me to be fat,” to empowered: “I won’t eat that because I don’t want it” or “I will eat that because I do want it.”
When we slide off into old habits or patterns, getting back up can be graceful because we are buoyed by the lightness and strength of our power, not weighed down by the negativity and dread of our fear. We can come back to our paths easily because we lose the desire/need to beat ourselves up (usually causing ourselves to slide farther down). We love ourselves for who we are, for what we are, for how we are now.
And we are no longer afraid.
Which place do you want to choose from?